one who rules his own house well, having children in subjection with all reverence;
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one who rules his own house well, having children in subjection with all reverence;
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and one that rueleth his awne housse honestly havynge chyldren vnder obedience with all honeste.
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One that can rule his owne house honestly, hauing children vnder obedience with all honestie.
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Passages linked to 1 Timothy 3:4 in the Treasury of Scripture Knowledge, ordered by reader-vote popularity; verse text shown in World English Bible.
- Titus 1:6 if anyone is blameless, the husband of one wife, having children who believe, who are not accused of loose or unruly behavior.
- Genesis 18:19 For I have known him, to the end that he may command his children and his household after him, that they may keep the way of Yahweh, to do righteousness and justice; to the end that Yahweh may bring on Abraham that which he has spoken of him.”
- 1 Timothy 3:12 Let servants be husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.
- Titus 2:2 that older men should be temperate, sensible, sober minded, sound in faith, in love, and in perseverance:
- Joshua 24:15 If it seems evil to you to serve Yahweh, choose today whom you will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell; but as for me and my house, we will serve Yahweh.”
- Acts 10:2 a devout man, and one who feared God with all his house, who gave gifts for the needy generously to the people, and always prayed to God.
- Psalms 101:2-8 I will be careful to live a blameless life. When will you come to me? I will walk within my house with a blameless heart. I will set no vile thing before my eyes. I hate the deeds of faithless men. They will not cling to me. A perverse heart will be far from me. I will have nothing to do with evil. I will silence whoever secretly slanders his neighbor. I won’t tolerate one who is arrogant and conceited. My eyes will be on the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me. He who walks in a perfect way, he will serve me. He who practices deceit won’t dwell within my house. He who speaks falsehood won’t be established before my eyes. Morning by morning, I will destroy all the wicked of the land, to cut off all the workers of iniquity from Yahweh’s city.
- Titus 2:7 In all things be showing yourself an example of good works. In your teaching, be showing integrity, seriousness, incorruptibility,
- Philippians 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever things are true, whatever things are honorable, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report: if there is any virtue and if there is any praise, think about these things.
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John Calvin 1540 · Public Domain 4 Who ruleth well his own house Hence it…
4 Who ruleth well his own house Hence it is evident, that Paul does not demand that a bishop shall be unacquainted within human life, but that he shall be a good and praiseworthy master of a household; for, whatever may be the admiration commonly entertained for celibacy and a philosophical life altogether removed from ordinary custom, yet wise and thoughtful men are convinced by experience, that they who are not ignorant of ordinary life, but are practiced in the duties of human intercourse, are better trained and adapted for governing the Church. And, therefore, we ought to observe the reason which is added, (1 Timothy 3:5,) that he who does not know how to rule his family, Will not be qualified for governing the Church. Now, this is the case with very many persons, and indeed with almost all who have been drawn out of an idle and solitary life, as out of dens and caverns; for they are a sort of savages and destitute of humanity.
Who hath his children in subjection with, all reverence The apostle does not recommend a clever man, and deeply skilled in domestic matters, but one who has learned to govern a family by wholesome discipline. He speaks chiefly of children, who may be expected to possess the natural disposition of their father; and therefore it will be a great disgrace to a bishop, if he has children who lead a wicked and scandalous life. As to wives, he will speak of them afterwards; but at present, as I have said, he glances at the most important part of a house.
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In the Epistle to Titus, (Titus 1:6,) he shows what is here meant by the word reverence; for, after having said that the children of a bishop must not be unruly and disobedient, he likewise adds,
“nor liable to the reproach of profligacy or of intemperance.”
He therefore means, in a word, that their morals shall be regulated by all chastity, modesty, and gravity.
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John Trapp 1656 · Public Domain 4 One that ruleth well his own house, having…
4 One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
Ver. 4. One that ruleth well] προισταμενον. A good priest in his own family, which he daily perfumes with evangelical sacrifices, till his house, as the house of David, be as God, as the angel of the Lord before them, Zec 12:8.
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Having his children in subjection] Yet Pope Pelagius forbids a bishop to have either wife or children; whereof this wise reason is given, because children are argumentum ambulans super terram, A walking argument of their father’s incontinence. Os durum! Hard saying! His successor Paul III had no wife indeed, but children he had. One of whom, named Petro Alvigi Farnesis, having first forced and then poisoned Cosmus Chaerius, bishop of Fanum, received no other check or chastisement of his father the pope but this, Haec vitia me non commonstratore didicit, He never learned those vices from his father.
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Matthew Poole 1685 · Public Domain One that ruleth well his own house; if he…
One that ruleth well his own house; if he he one to whom God hath given a family, one who hath given an experiment of his conversation and ability to take care of a church, by the care that he hath taken of his family, and his ruling in that lesser society.
Having his children in subjection with all gravity; one that hath not let his children behave themselves rudely, and indecently, and rebelliously, but kept them in order by a grave demeanour towards them.
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William Burkitt 1703 · Public Domain A bishop being a ruler in the church of…
A bishop being a ruler in the church of God, Timothy is advised to choose such a one to rule in the church that well and wisely governs his own family, having his children in due subjection, and both he and they behaving themselves with becoming gravity; and St. Paul subjoins a reason for this apostolical injunction, arguing from the less to the greater, thus: "The church is a large family, the bishop’s house a less; the former requires a greater skill in governing of it than the latter: if then a man cannot rule a less province, how shall he manage a greater? If he cannot keep up his authority with decency and becoming gravity in his own family, how shall such a one be thought fit to be entrusted with the care of the church of God?"
Great are the obligations which lie upon the ministers of God, above all men, to guide and govern their own families, to keep their children in due subjection, and their servants in great order; because their family miscarriages reflect greatly upon their authority and prudence, and the world will pronounce them unfit for rule in the church of God, who cannot govern their own house. If a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?
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Learn hence, That he who knows now to rule his own house well, is in a good posture of spirit for public rule; the same wisdom, justice, and holiness for kind, but more extensive, acts in either sphere, and will regularly move in both.
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John Gill 1763 · Public Domain One that ruleth well his own house,.... His family,…
One that ruleth well his own house,.... His family, wife, children, and servants; and is not to be understood of his body, and of keeping of that under, and of preserving it chaste and temperate, as appears from what follows:
having his children in subjection with all gravity; keeping a good decorum in his family; obliging his children to observe his orders, and especially the rules of God's word; and not as Eli, who did not use his authority, or lay his commands upon his sons, nor restrain them from evil, or severely reprove them for their sins, but neglected them, and was too mild and gentle with them;
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1Sa 2:23 3:13 but like Abraham, who not only taught, but commanded his children and his household, to keep the way of the Lord; Gen 18:19 and so should those act who are in such an office as is here treated of; and should not only rule well in their families, preside over them, go before them, and set an example to them, and keep their children in obedience and subjection; but this should be "with all gravity": not only in the master of the family, but in the children; who as their father is, or should be, should be brought up in, and used to gravity in words and in dress; and in the whole of their deportment and conversation. This may he observed against the Papists, who forbid marriage to the ministers of the Gospel.
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John Wesley 1765 · Public Domain Having his children in subjection with all seriousness -…
Having his children in subjection with all seriousness - For levity undermines all domestic authority; and this direction, by a parity of reason, belongs to all parents.
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Adam Clarke 1810 · Public Domain Verse 4. The fourteenth qualification of a Christian bishop…
Verse 4. The fourteenth qualification of a Christian bishop is, that he ruleth well his own house; του ιδιου οικου καλως προΐσταμενον, one who properly presides over and governs his own family. One who has the command, of his own house, not by sternness, severity, and tyranny, but with all gravity; governing his household by rule, every one knowing his own place, and each doing his own work, and each work having the proper time assigned for its beginning and end. This is a maxim of common sense; no family can be prosperous that is not under subjection, and no person can govern a family but the head of it, the husband, who is, both by nature and the appointment of God, the head or governor of his own house. See Clarke on Eph 5:22.
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Joseph Benson 1811 · Public Domain 1Ti 3:4-6. One that ruleth well his own house…
1Ti 3:4-6. One that ruleth well his own house — That not only rules it, but rules it well, and keeps his family in good order: that rules it so as to promote religion and virtue in all its members; rules it calmly, but firmly; never using harshness where gentleness and love will produce the desired effect; having his children — If he be a father; in subjection, with all gravity — Or seriousness; for levity undermines all domestic authority: and he must thus rule his house both that he may set a good example to other masters of families, and that he may thereby give proof of his ability to preside over the church of God. For if a man know not how to rule his own house — So as to preserve a due decorum in the family where he has such a natural authority; how should he be able to take care of — Or to govern, in a proper manner, that greater and more important society, the church of God — In which there will be such a diversity of characters and dispositions, and over which it will be impossible for him to maintain an equal inspection and influence? Not a novice — νεοφυτον, literally, one newly ingrafted, namely, into the body of Christ, or newly planted, namely, in the garden of his church; that is, one newly converted. Such were not to be made bishops, or presbyters; because, being yet but imperfectly instructed in the Christian doctrine, they were not fit to teach it to others. Besides, as their zeal, constancy, fidelity, and other graces, had not been sufficiently tried, they could have had but little authority, especially with the brethren of longer standing and greater experience. Lest being lifted up with pride — Greek, τυφωθεις, puffed up, with this new honour conferred upon him, or the applause which frequently follows it; he fell into the condemnation of the devil — The same into which the devil fell, or be guilty of the sin of self-conceit and high-mindedness, for which the devil was condemned.
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Albert Barnes 1834 · Public Domain One that ruleth well his own house - This…
One that ruleth well his own house - This implies that a minister of the gospel would be, and ought to be, a married man. It is everywhere in the New Testament supposed that he would be a man who could be an example in all the relations of life. The position which he occupies in the church has a strong resemblance to the relation which a father sustains to his household; and a qualification to govern a family well, would be an evidence of a qualification to preside properly in the church. It is probable that, in the early Christian church, ministers were not unfrequently taken from those of mature life, and who were, at the time, at the head of families; and, of course, such would be men who had had an opportunity of showing that they had this qualification for the office. Though, however, this cannot be insisted on now as a “previous” qualification for the office, yet it is still true that, if he has a family, it is a necessary qualification, and that a man in the ministry “should be” one who governs his own house well. A want of this will always be a hindrance to extensive usefulness.
Having his children in subjection with all gravity - This does not mean that his “children” should evince gravity, whatever may be true on that point; but it refers “to the father.” He should be a grave or serious man in his family; a man free from levity of character, and from frivolity and fickleness, in his conversation with his children. It does not mean that he should be severe, stern, morose - which are traits that are often mistaken for gravity, and which are as inconsistent with the proper spirit of a father as frivolity of manner - but that he should be a serious and sober-minded man. He should maintain proper “dignity” (σεμνότης semnotēs); he should maintain self-respect, and his deportment should be such as to inspire others with respect for him.
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Haydock's Catholic Bible Commentary 1859 · Public Domain Ruleth well his own house, &c. Before he is…
Ruleth well his own house, &c. Before he is set over the Church, let him have given proofs of his talents for governing within his own house, by the regularity he has made all his dependants observe. In the infancy of the Church, it was frequently necessary to ordain the most regular fathers of families bishops, for want of others of a sufficient age who had observed perpetual continency. --- With all chastity. The Greek implies, grave, sober, temperate; but as this seems to answer what is said Titus i. 6. it seems to be properly understood of chastity. (Witham)
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Robert Jamieson, A. R. Fausset & David Brown 1871 · Public Domain ruleth--Greek, "presiding over."
ruleth--Greek, "presiding over."
his own house--children and servants, as contrasted with "the church" (house) of God (Ti1 3:5, Ti1 3:15) which he may be called on to preside over.
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having his children--rather as Greek, "having children (who are) in subjection" (Tit 1:6).
gravity--propriety: reverent modesty on the part of the children [ALFORD]. The fact that he has children who are in subjection to him in all gravity, is the recommendation in his favor as one likely to rule well the Church.
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Daniel D. Whedon 1874 · Public Domain 4. House… children—How entirely adverse to Scripture is the…
4. House… children—How entirely adverse to Scripture is the requirement of clerical celibacy is transparent from this passage, where the elder’s care of his family is token of his ability to care for his Church. Indeed, Vigilantius, the great opponent of Jerome, had some reason for maintaining that St. Paul required marriage in the clergy.
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The Cambridge Bible for Schools and Colleges 1878 · Public Domain 4. that ruleth well his own house] In distinction…
4. that ruleth well his own house] In distinction to ‘God’s household’ the Church, 1Ti_3:5; 1Ti_3:15.
his children] Rather, from the emphatic position of ‘children,’ and the absence of the article, the sense is ‘with a household of his own rightly under his rule, with children held in subjection.’
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with all gravity] There should be, that is, all propriety of conduct on his part, according to the line ‘maxima debetur pueris reverentia’; so Titus in order to commend his exhortations to the young men to be pure is himself ‘to set an example of propriety,’ Tit_2:7. There should be the same propriety on the children’s part, according to the similar passage in Tit_1:6, that they be ‘not accused of riot.’
Compare St Paul’s eloquent appeal to the Philippians to ‘think thoughts true and seemly, righteous and pure,’ thoughts of truth, morality, righteousness and purity, Php_4:8.
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Ellicott's Commentary for English Readers 1878 · Public Domain (4) One that ruleth well his own house.—Paul here…
(4) One that ruleth well his own house.—Paul here again turns to the vein of thought first struck in 1Ti_3:2 : The life of the officer in the Church of God must be a pattern life for those without, as well as for those within the Church’s fold, to copy and imitate. He must be pre-eminent in nobility of life and aims; but the life and the aims must belong to ordinary every day life. His high standard must be no inimitable one; the example must be one that all honest men may follow and copy, if they will. So, first of all (1Ti_3:2), the Apostle places among the qualities necessary for a governing elder in the Church, the pure home life of the husband; then, after enumerating other points to be sought for in the character of one chosen to rule in the congregation, Paul comes back to this central idea, the home life of the Church official; that home life must present the spectacle of a well-ordered household. This will be at least a good test of a man’s fitness to rule the large family gathered together in the form of a congregation, if his own home is gently yet firmly ruled; the wife, a pattern Christian lady; the children growing up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Having his children in subjection with all gravity.—The Greek word rendered “gravity” occurs in 1Ti_2:2, where it is translated in the authorised version, not very happily, by “honesty.” The word employed in the original Greek denotes that decorum, that propriety of demeanour, which belongs especially to the pure and chaste, and seems to urge that a peculiar reverence and an especial decorum shall be aimed at in all relations with the young. Maxima debetur pueris reverentia. The child life in the families of these ministers of Christ’s religion must, too, be an example to countless other homes.
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The Pulpit Commentary 1880 · Public Domain One that ruleth well his own house. The ejpiskopov…
One that ruleth well his own house. The ejpiskopov is one who has to preside over and rule (proistasqai) the house of God (1Ti_5:17; Rom_12:8; 1Th_5:12) as the high priest was called "ruler of the house of God". (1Ch_9:11; Neh_11:11) So in Justin Martyr the bishop is called oJ proestwv twn ajdelfwn ("Apology," 11) and simply oJ proestwv, and similarly inmenoi Heb_13:7 the clergy are oiJ hJgou uJmwn, they which have the rule over you." How needful, then, is it that he should rule well his own house, and have his own children in subjection! The testimony given in this passage to a married clergy is too clear to need any comment. In subjection (ejn uJpotagh); as above, 1Ti_2:11, where see note. For the sense, comp.thtov), Tit_1:6, which leads us to apply the words, with all gravity (semno) the contrary to "riot," ajswtia), to the children. The children of the ejpiskopov are to exhibit that seriousness and sobriety of conduct which is in accordance with their father"s office, meta, together with, as in 1Ti_1:14.
Vers. 4, 5.
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The Christian pastor in his home life.
The apostle here turns to the family life of the pastor as an important element affecting the public examination of his character.
I THE IMPORTANCE OF A WELL-ORDERED HOUSEHOLD. "One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity.
1. The pastor is no ascetic recluse, but shares in the everyday life of the world.
2. He must have firmness and authority to rule his family wife, children, and servants; not slack in his rule like old Eli, but faithful as Abraham, who not only taught but commanded his children and household to keep the way of the Lord.
3. He is to rule gently yet firmly, so as, while securing subjection in his household, he creates that gravity of deportment which is the accompanying grace of obedience in children reared under wise and loving mastery.
II THE WELL-ORDERED HOUSEHOLD THE TEST OF FITNESS FOR THE RULE OF THE HOUSE OF GOD. "For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the Church of God?
1. The argument is from the less to the greater. The family is the lesser sphere, the Church the larger family. The family needs much prudence, care, forethought, affection. But while it is the narrowest sphere, it is governed with peculiar advantages, arising from the feelings of love and dependence on the part of the children. If there is failure here, there is a self-evident unfitness for the wider and more complex administration of the Church.
2. The Church of God is to be a subject of anxious care to the pastor. The Greek word implies this thought. The apostle himself had the care of all the Churches upon him. But the pastor has a care for the individual members of his flock, to seek the conversion of sinners, to instruct the ignorant, to guide the perplexed, to comfort the doubting, to check the wayward, and to defend the flock against errorists. "Who is sufficient for these things? T.C.
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B. W. Johnson 1891 · Public Domain 4. One that ruleth well his own house. This…
4. One that ruleth well his own house. This implies that he must be a man of family. Having his children. He must be a father with obedient children.
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unfoldingWord translationNotes 2017 · CC BY-SA 4.0 He should manage
He should manage
"He should lead" or "He should take care of"
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with all respect
Possible meanings are 1) the overseer's children should obey and show respect to their father or 2) the overseer's children should show respect to everyone or 3) the overseer should show respect to those in his household as he leads them.
all respect
"complete respect" or "respect at all times"
For if a man does not know how to manage
"For when a man cannot manage"
how will he care for a church of God?
Paul uses a question to teach Timothy. AT: "he cannot take care of a church of God." or "he will not be able to lead a church of God." (See: Rhetorical Question)
a church of God
Here "church" refers to a local group of God's people. AT: "a group of God's people" or "the believers over whom he is in charge" (See: Metonymy)
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Tyndale Open Study Notes 2022 · CC BY-SA 4.0 3:4-5 The church as a household (3:15) overlapped with…
3:4-5 The church as a household (3:15) overlapped with the family household. An overseer’s capacity to manage in one sphere reflected his capability in the other (see also 3:12; 5:17; Rom 12:8; 1 Thes 5:12). • The Greco-Roman household was united by familial bonds characterized by mutual responsibilities, roles, and stewardship. The household included the blood relatives living together along with other dependents, such as household servants.
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